So the previous week broke with the shock suicide news of a Young Man in the city of Lagos, in his mid-twenties who jumped off the Third Mainland Bridge. He had so much life ahead of him. Quite unfortunate!
We got into a heated discussion about it in the office with colleagues as to why people commit suicide. One of the things I said, and still maintain is that our mindset and thinking pattern affects us a great deal. Depression has been the major cause of suicide, but it’s first and foremost preconceived; meaning it comes to your mind like a world of ideas, making suggestions, and you’ve got to decide whether suicide is the way out.
Life is not a rollercoaster of good stuff and enjoyment only. It’s a mixture of the good, the bad and the ugly. And for a fact, bad things happen to good people; sad!
Challenges make life worth living. Imagine a life devoid of challenges, it may seem appealing but most certainly, it will be boring. However, in the midst of all the challenges here and there, we are empowered to overcome.
Feeding negative thoughts and perceptions about life wouldn’t allow us to see life as a beautiful gift.
We can’t allow impulsive negative and pessimistic mindset to hinder us from soaring new heights and seeing brighter days ahead even when we in real sense cannot see it.
Not as though you should deny your present reality but that what ever had happened is all in the past. We just need to acknowledge and move through it.
Taffi Dollar in her book Authentic; Dare to be real said something profound which I agree with, and I quote:
“Rather than focusing on the past or present circumstances, think about how you want your life to be. Concentrate on the goals you want to achieve, and the fact that you have been given a second chance at a better and more purposeful life. What happened yesterday may not have been fair; it may not have even been your fault. Some situations probably could have been avoided had the choices been different, but none of that can be changed now. We must learn from the past and embrace the future. When we fail to learn from the lessons, we are destined to repeat it. By learning from the experience, we position ourselves to grow, gain peace and discover a positive outlook on life.”
I’ll end with the Serenity Prayer which says:
God Grant me the Serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
Courage to change the things I can;
And wisdom to know the difference.
I care about you deeply, and whatever you’re going through, that which you can’t tell anyone, that which makes you cry at night I pray you garner the courage to live through it. Suicide is not an escape route!